1. Fail miserably at self-sabotage/fearing success.
I might as well shine the spotlight on the elephant in the room to right off the bat.
This post was originally 27 points long…until I realized at least half of them fit into this one category.
Why are you afraid of success?
Self-sabotage shows up in many forms, procrastination, disorganization, running with the “wrong crowd” or naysayers, making careless mistakes…
I think that we fear success because it might mean we’d have to stop dreaming. That we won’t have anything to work for or look forward to. That our life will change entirely.
If we stay true to ourselves, success does the opposite.
You dream bigger, work with more purpose…and yes, your life may change a lot for the BETTER.
But who you are, your authentic self, your purpose will only become clearer as you allow yourself to experience victories.
2. Fail miserably at doing everything perfectly.
There’s a saying we should all plaster on our office walls:
“Hurry up and fail!”
Haven’t your best lessons in life come through the avenue of mistakes? Ouch! They hurt for a minute, but ultimately it’s the best way to learn quickly.
A life/career without mistakes is going to take a LONG time to amount to much…don’t you think?
Bottom line, if you spend too much time trying to be perfect you’re missing out on life’s best opportunities.
3. Fail miserably at giving into fear of the unknown.
You want to leave your job and make it on your own…but then the what-ifs start!
What if I can’t make enough money? What if I look foolish? What if I’m not as good as I think I can be?
The thing is, we never really answer our what-if questions, do we?
They become these imagined insurmountable obstacles, when really they’re just unanswered questions.
So how do you silence the what-ifs? MAKE A PLAN AND WRITE IT DOWN.
A business plan, a life plan, a daily plan.
If you’re serious about making strides toward your dreams, then stand up to those what-if bullies. Make a plan. And do it NOW.
4. Fail miserably at being too comfortable.
Okay, I’m about to geek out a little here.
Do you remember that scene in The Hobbit where Gandalf is pressuring Bilbo to decide if he’s going to leave everything familiar and venture out into the unknown?
And Bilbo tells Gandalf he just needs to sit quietly for a while?
And then Gandalf tells Bilbo that he’s been sitting quietly for far too long?
Have you been sitting quietly and comfortably for far too long?
Comfort is a sneaky seductress, isn’t it?
We all aspire to be comfortable, but ultimately it can be our worst demotivator. It hinders our growth, makes us lazy, and emotionally flabby.
Step out of your comfort zone at least once a week. Call up a new friend. Go to a networking event. Write a guest blog post, or update your resume.
Excitement, and adventure is waiting…
5. Fail miserably at thinking the world owes you something.
“But Lara”, you may say, “I’m not part of the entitlement generation.”
To that I say, if you’re alive and under the age of 88, you’re part of an entitlement generation…LOL!
But we’re not entirely at fault. Almost everywhere you turn the phrase, “you deserve it” is being thrust upon us.
And I believe we are all entitled to life fulfillment, purpose, and happiness. But it’s our responsibility to pursue and discover for ourselves.
Not our parent’s, not our boss’s, not our spiritual leader or guru’s…it is our destiny and ours alone.
6. Fail miserably at becoming an expert at everything.
Oh how many dreams have been derailed, or irrevocably delayed because you tried to do everything yourself?
We are on this planet with 6 billion other people for a reason…to help each other out!
Seek out experts to help you in areas you are lacking, and you will turbo-charge your success.
7. Fail miserably at thinking you can succeed with little to no effort.
I think everyone has fallen for this hook, line, and sinker at some point—even if it was just trying out a lose-20-pounds-in-two-weeks-scheme. (If you haven’t, woot woot to you!)
Real, lasting success takes energy, resources, selflessness, and plenty of hard work.
Those who have gotten rich with very little effort, like lottery winners, tend to blow through those riches all to quickly.
We value what we invest in, don’t we?
Don’t be afraid to invest some blood, sweat, and tears into your dreams.
After all success always tastes sweeter after we’ve earned it.
What have you had to fail miserably at to be successful?
Fail big, succeed bigger!