Yesterday evening, my husband and I had one of those out-of-the-box, gloriously spontaneous moments I just had to share in this post, Fuel your happiness with random acts of adventure.
As the years go by, and we “settle down”, it’s so easy to get caught up in the comfortable day-to-day, weekend-to-weekend, same old, same old routines. We lose our appetite for the unknown, we start making excuses and stop being open to new experiences, and we wonder why life starts to feel stagnant.
I hope this story sparks your sense of adventure…
Those who know my husband Randy would agree that he is either spoiled or extremely fortunate. It’s probably a good mix of both. Randy and I met a bit later in life, we had both been through our share of life experiences, heart break, and relationship hard-knocks. When we got engaged we agreed that our marriage would always be a source of support, love, adventure, encouragement, and giving.
So, last night while we were hanging out with our besties, Randy got a text from our soon-to-be-nephew-in-law, Juan, down in South Florida. It read, “Hey Buddy—I am heading to the Sunshine Music and Blues festival tomorrow! Wish you were here.”
Juan and Randy met many years ago and became fast friends. Their love of music bonded them instantly, and it’s been fun to see the friendship blossom through a shared devotion to The Allman Brothers Band.
It was amusing watching Randy hem haw over this text…wishing desperately that he could be there…one of his favorite bands, the Tedeschi Trucks Band, was headlining…but it’s this weekend…it’s not on the family calendar…what’s a guy to do?!
As fate would have it, about a month ago he had mentioned the idea of going to this show. At the time we were in the height of spending and facing many other stresses, so we agreed it just wasn’t feasible. Timing is everything.
But now, things were different. So I casually suggested he look into concert tickets and a flight, and if it worked out I would be happy for him to go.
The look on his face was worth the price of admission. The man holds nothing back when he’s excited. I think that’s what makes spoiling him so much fun.
He knew I was serious, and went right to work checking flights and getting a ticket. I think the entire trip was booked within 20 minutes flat.
Our friends just sat there, looking slightly stunned, as they watched this unfold. They could not wrap their heads around the idea that Randy was flying to Florida the very next morning to go to a concert…random acts of adventure sure do keep life interesting!
It must have been written in the stars because the whole thing worked out so easily…our daughter, Everleigh, was planning to spend the weekend at Grandma’s anyway, and now I got some much needed alone time.
I truly believe that one of the secrets to a successful marriage (and successful relationships in general) is a give-and give instead of give-and-take attitude.
Instead of each person having to give up something…why not give unconditionally to each other for the sheer joy of giving? When we do, life flows easily and everybody wins.
We all carry a ton of responsibilities that can take a lot out of us if we aren’t careful. It’s hard to know the stresses other people are under (even those closest to us), so isn’t it safe to assume that we could all use love, understanding, a little spoiling and…random acts of adventure?
I know what Randy loves to do for recreational time (other than hanging with his family), concerts, football games, snow skiing; and he knows what I enjoy too, movies, massages, quiet time to read books, and write. We work extra hard to give those things to each other, and it really helps the health of our family.
Whether you’re married, single, young, old, super-busy, or super-bored, I strongly encourage random acts of adventure. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, and it will mean different things to each of us at different stages in our lives. A couple years ago when our daughter was an infant there’s no way Randy would have been able to do this, but like I said…timing is everything.
If we allow ourselves, and each other, the freedom to experience things we enjoy, we are just plain happier. And happiness keeps us healthy and gives us energy to handle our multitude of responsibilities.
Happiness attracts happiness.
What can you do today to have random acts of adventure?
Live large and give constantly…