It was not easy turning 39, being single, never married, and having no children. Certainly my family and friends were “concerned” about me finding Mr. Right. My Mom would often tell me that man I was looking for didn’t exist, except in fantasy, and perhaps I should lower my expectations.Yes, I had heard it all… but even still there was always hope and an underlying sense of trust that my life would work out in amazing ways. It always did.
Meeting my husband was not an accident, but (as Oprah calls it) a prepared opportunity. Earlier that year I was involved in a relationship very similar to many others – you guessed it, he was “unavailable”. The timing or the circumstances were never right, and thus an ongoing struggle ensued.
Finally, I realized I had to make a decision. As much as I felt love and connection with this man, I knew I had to put my heart on the line and ask for what I wanted out of the relationship. I was willing to be told “No” and have my heart broken… again. Considering everything I had gone through already, I really had nothing to lose.
During the conversation with the man in question (which occurred over the phone, of course, as this was a typical long distance affair) I gathered the strength to ask him for “all or nothing”. Gulp. As soon as I did, something very powerful occurred. It was as if an energy band released from my heart, a band that had been tied to a lifetime of pleasing others, suddenly freed itself. This energy was so powerful it felt like water from a fire hydrant pouring out of my chest.
Right then I knew that no matter what his answer was, my life would be different – because I had the courage to ask for what I deserved without manipulation or fear. I was suddenly pretty excited for the future, whatever it might hold, and felt at peace with myself. I asked this man to consider my request while I traveled to Key West for vacation with a girlfriend. He agreed. Somewhere in the back of my mind, I already knew what his answer would be – and it was OK.
The trip was fantastic. My dear friend and I really had a good time enjoying the magic of the Keys. On the return trip I reminded her that a friend of ours from Toastmasters had met his fiancé at the airport, so one might never know what could happen! We landed back at the ATL airport on December 23, 2007 (this date will always be important to me!) While I was waiting for my over-sized red bag to show up, a handsome, bearded gentleman smiled at me. He had kind eyes and a sweet manner. Of course I smiled back.
We each have our version of this meeting, but be that as it may… We started talking and exchanged numbers, then made a plan to have dinner together – and in that moment, my future changed. My heart was still tender, which encouraged me to take the time to let something new develop. After my first date with Randy, the other man called to let me know he would not be able to give me what I needed. Funny – I had already forgotten about him.
Randy swept me off of my feet with his southern charm and great cooking skills. Life with him was so easy. We both had a great love of travel and sense of adventure. God certainly blessed me that day! We bought a house together later that year, and on the eve of my 40th birthday Randy proposed on the steps of our new home. Our life together is still amazing. We just celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary on April 19th of 2013, and as if that were not enough, on January 14, 2011, the arrival of our daughter Everleigh made our family complete. My life has continued to work out in amazing ways.
I wanted to share this story with you so that it might bring hope to those still longing for true love, and re-inspire those who might take love for granted. True love is tender, precious and rare. I found mine, and I know you can find yours.
I would love to hear from you. How did you meet your true love? If you are still searching, what do you need to change to allow for that special meeting?
Open up to love…
Just for the health of it!